Sometimes I feel like I’m too broken to even be considered by the universe to find love. Instead of telling yourself that you’re a failure, correct that narrative in your head and say that you just haven’t found the right person yet, which is totally okay and super normal.I’ve never suffered any emotional or mental trauma that would provoke these thoughts, but I wonder if it’s self-preservation. You say that every time you put yourself out there you’ve been unsuccessful.
So why not relax, enjoy your life and do your best to find a man who has the good sense and maturity to appreciate a woman his age? Instead she proceeds to stoke that fear: You're competing with women younger, possibly thinner, and probably making just as much money as you are and are equally successful. And by step up I mean do the work you need to do to compete.
It can feel very significant in the moment, even though it doesn't really mean anything other than that you've had a bad night.
Unfortunately, my client went home and read a blog post that made her feel much worse.
But that is the point, so here goes: The post begins with a letter from a woman named Betty, who is in her late 30s and having a hard time finding men her age to date--she noticed that the men who approached her online were usually ten to twenty years older. The blogger, identified only as Moxie, confirmed that her situation was very bad indeed, and proceeded to make some very disheartening, blanket statements about men.
The guys who wanted children would surely look past her, but she would also have a tough time with men who The only bright side to such a conclusion is that at least the reader can know it's not her fault.