Do black women feel black men dating white women
While she posted it in relation to what she deemed to be a successful mindset to bring into an individual relationship, recent events opened my eyes to the truism of that statement not just as an ideology for a single couple, but a mantra that desperately needs to be understood throughout the Black community, particularly regarding how we treat one another.
Two, women seem to be content in the fact that they are independent and self-sufficient and have a career, family and friends that fulfills them and don’t seem to be interested in truly finding a relationship. This gives men time to court, fall in love, travel together, move in, get engaged, and enjoy a few years of childless marriage before starting a family.
But I understand where Black women’s frustration comes from, and it’s more about the fact that Black men would rather hit the Caps Lock button to yell at women expressing frustration with their abuse, than hit the Caps Lock button to berate the men who are doing the abusing. As Black men, the worst thing we can do is ask how we as individuals can solve the Black man vs.
Black woman problem, because that’s only tempting analysis paralysis.
Last weekend, those of us who engage in and follow the actions of #Black Twitter witnessed a vicious and viral debate over one familiar, yet unrelentingly inflammatory statement: “men are trash.” Soon after the remark was put out there and started to trend, the typical gender split occurred, arguments heated up and generalizations began flying left, right and center.
Black authors, essayists, activists and rappers were all heavily engaged in this war of words between the “be honest about your toxic masculinity” crowd, and the “not all men” lot.