Dating a man with commitment phobia
I really want a relationship similar to all those in my family and social circle have – no more than a 2-3 year age difference. Am I going to have to settle for a man 10-20 years older than me and have a lackluster sex/love life? Surely there must be men who come from a similar background (i.e. It’s just going to require more effort on your part.
that spouses should be from the same generation so that the relationship will succeed for the long term). It’s also going to require that you ask yourself why, at 38, you’re still single. First, learn to accept the reality that a 38-40 year old marriage minded man is going to want someone a good 5-7 years younger than him if he wants kids. A 40-45 year old man who’s not interested in having children is going to want a woman who isn’t dead set on having kids. The guys who wink or e-mail me within minutes of logging on.
Every day, I look at those pictures every morning and am reminded of what is possible. I also hung pictures of my ideal guys – Edward Norton and Matthew Rhys.
Then, and I can’t believe I’m admitting to this but fuck it, I planned my wedding down to the last detail. But I’m now almost 20 pounds lighter and my sex/love life has taken a positive turn in the last two months.
And while I might nitpick with a line or two, on the whole, I think Moxie knocked it out of the park.
I made a slide show of my affirmations, using pictures of everything from the type of body I want to have to piles of money to a clip of someone reading their credit rating to the new apartment I want to have. The money flows in and, like with most businesses, flows right back out.
So here, in its entirety, I offer you a very challenging post about women, written by a very intelligent woman.
Feel free to post whether you agree or disagree with her assessment.
You’re basically setting yourself up to fail when you focus on what you don’t have or on people that aren’t interested in you.
(Remember the other suggestion I made up thread – Learn when to walk away.) The more focus you put on what you are lacking, the more power you give to that idea and the more prevalent it becomes.